When you become friends with someone of the opposite gender there are these unsaid rules. Sometimes they can catch feelings for the other and they can be hard to ignore. That’s why it’s uncommon for those of different genders to be friends and only friends. It is possible to just be friends if the two people respect each other’s feelings. It is just a coin flip. Some true friends like you for you and then some friends want to be more than just that. Regardless of which, feelings are one of the harder things to have to try to conceal. People also tend to have flirty personalities, which can be taken into consideration by the other person leading to something further.
Mia Badillo, a freshman says, “Yes, I do think boys and girls can just be friends with the opposite gender without any feelings forming or getting attached, also having a strong friendship based on likes and beliefs is very important.”
The friendship of the opposite gender does not have to lead to something further. In high school, it’s assumed teenagers are always looking for a relationship or something further than a friend-to-friend relationship, but that’s not the case. Friends know where the boundaries go, just because we aren’t the same gender does not mean we can’t be friends. teenagers can control their feelings and not have it take action on something of that sort
Andrew Valdez‘ disagrees with this because he says, “Teenagers are at their peak hormonal stages, and when it comes to being friends with the opposite gender there is a struggle not to attach themselves romantically but I do somewhat agree that there are some rare situations where these relationships work the only problem is when most couples break up their friendship after is gone and they act like they don’t know each other anymore.’’
Crystal Carreras, a junior says, ”Yes I definitely think friends of the opposite genders can just be friends, not everything has to be romanticized. You can simply talk to the opposite gender how you usually talk to the same gender without it going any further but I do believe that is how most relationships start by just being friends and talking.’’
In conclusion, at the end of the day boys and girls can be friends without it getting messy it is just mainly up to the two people and if they decide if they want to be more than just friends. It can work out but in many cases, once they break up if they do the friendship is never the same after, which is a risk they have to be willing to take.
